“A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities.” William Arthur Ward
"Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, until nightfall. Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all life really means." ~Robert Louis Stevenson;
"There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature."— Jane Austen
It's better to shoot for the stars and miss than to aim for the ground and score a bullseye. I am passionate about what I believe in, and think I can make a difference in this world. I may never be President, but if I never try, how will I know. I have a lot to say. You can see more on Loving My Life, My Passion, or I am Mommy
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Quote for the Day
"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Thomas Jefferson
A Word On "Loving My Life".... and ALL that comes with it
"Let's face it, It's not always a walk in the park on a Gorgeous Summer's Day. But when all is said and done, I LOVE it! I am devoted to being open and honest. You couldn't make this stuff up! Such is my story. There is Drama and horror, that's why I Blog it. And I want the chance to be candid, that's why it's private."
This is my explanation in case anyone wonders why this particular Blog, "Loving My Life and ALL that comes with it" is private while my other 2 are open.
I take the approach that everything is on the table.
I have no skeletons in my closet. I allow people to know the FULL story.
I love knowing that if someone were to walk up to My Husband, or really anyone else like My Mother, or My Children and say something along the lines of "Did you know that Candace did.....?" They could confidently say, "Yes, I knew that already."
There is NOTHING any media could bring up, or any slighted "Ex" could reveal that isn't already on the table. In fact, I have the sort of luck that it doesn't matter that I am a "Nobody" from a rural town in the Middle of Nowhere. Almost ALL of my "Incidents" and anything I might like to NOT have broadcast, makes the Local Paper. There is NOTHING like your Bishop, Relief Society President, Visiting Teaching Companion, and LandLord knowing exactly what is going on in your life because they read the newspaper. So by the time you bring it up, it's old news.
When David and I were first dating, in an effort to deter him from seriously pursuing me, a well meaning Friend, who I am happy to say I am even closer to now than I was then, told my soon to be In-Laws things that I think shocked at least my Sister-In-Law.... who was young and didn't need to know that sort of stuff.
But I think it worked out for the best. Because it allowed me to work with it rather than run from it. It helped me get to where I am now with my ability to be completely open and honest.
Not to mention it helped me trust that David TRULY loved me even with all of my past "mistakes," and that he wouldn't run at the first sign of trouble or scandal.
The thing is that I KNOW that not everyone needs the "gory" details. Some just want the surface, and that's fine by me. Thus, it is in my Private Blog that I include these details, and if people want to know, they just have to ask. And those who are happy with the basics, get just that. My Mother, My Husband, My Children, and My Closest Friends know EVERYTHING. And if I've left something out, all they have to do is ask. But at least with David, I know there are no surprises in store. Even the most shocking revelations would bore him ;-)
Just a quick example: When we were at the beginning of our Divorce, I was living at my Cousin's with The Girls. David came into town, and over dinner, I announced that I was filing for Divorce. The next night, we went out to dinner again since.... well, he was trying to convince me to reconsider. He wanted to show me that he would be helpful, by coming back "home" with me and helping me get The Girls to bed so that I didn't have to do it all alone. One thing led to another, and he spent the night. My Cousin, who isn't "all there" anyway, walked into my room without much warning the next morning. I had David hide down by the side of the bed. I'm sure she saw him.... but being the space case she is, didn't know who it was.
A couple of months later, at the end of the Divorce, she called David and left him a message telling him that she had some "dirt" on me that would proove that the Divorce wasn't his fault.... because I was cheating on him. (David and I Divorced more peacefully than we had been married. We filled out the papers together, agreed on EVERYTHING and managed to get a Divorce for under $30 and without any court appearences or Lawyers. So by the time she called him, we were Good Friends. He shared the message with me, and told me he knew all there was to know, and wasn't going to bother calling her.) Now, while this ultimately ruined my relationship with HER, I was very secure knowing that there were no surprises I needed to fear.
When people choose to support me, love me, stand by me, etc. I want it to be real. Not based on the part of the story I've edited to make me sound good. So, unlike Adam Peeples professes, I truly mean it when I say: If you know me, you know what I stand for, and if you don't then just ask.... and you will actually get the truth and a real answer. Rather than accusations and rejection.
This is my explanation in case anyone wonders why this particular Blog, "Loving My Life and ALL that comes with it" is private while my other 2 are open.
I take the approach that everything is on the table.
I have no skeletons in my closet. I allow people to know the FULL story.
I love knowing that if someone were to walk up to My Husband, or really anyone else like My Mother, or My Children and say something along the lines of "Did you know that Candace did.....?" They could confidently say, "Yes, I knew that already."
There is NOTHING any media could bring up, or any slighted "Ex" could reveal that isn't already on the table. In fact, I have the sort of luck that it doesn't matter that I am a "Nobody" from a rural town in the Middle of Nowhere. Almost ALL of my "Incidents" and anything I might like to NOT have broadcast, makes the Local Paper. There is NOTHING like your Bishop, Relief Society President, Visiting Teaching Companion, and LandLord knowing exactly what is going on in your life because they read the newspaper. So by the time you bring it up, it's old news.
When David and I were first dating, in an effort to deter him from seriously pursuing me, a well meaning Friend, who I am happy to say I am even closer to now than I was then, told my soon to be In-Laws things that I think shocked at least my Sister-In-Law.... who was young and didn't need to know that sort of stuff.
But I think it worked out for the best. Because it allowed me to work with it rather than run from it. It helped me get to where I am now with my ability to be completely open and honest.
Not to mention it helped me trust that David TRULY loved me even with all of my past "mistakes," and that he wouldn't run at the first sign of trouble or scandal.
The thing is that I KNOW that not everyone needs the "gory" details. Some just want the surface, and that's fine by me. Thus, it is in my Private Blog that I include these details, and if people want to know, they just have to ask. And those who are happy with the basics, get just that. My Mother, My Husband, My Children, and My Closest Friends know EVERYTHING. And if I've left something out, all they have to do is ask. But at least with David, I know there are no surprises in store. Even the most shocking revelations would bore him ;-)
Just a quick example: When we were at the beginning of our Divorce, I was living at my Cousin's with The Girls. David came into town, and over dinner, I announced that I was filing for Divorce. The next night, we went out to dinner again since.... well, he was trying to convince me to reconsider. He wanted to show me that he would be helpful, by coming back "home" with me and helping me get The Girls to bed so that I didn't have to do it all alone. One thing led to another, and he spent the night. My Cousin, who isn't "all there" anyway, walked into my room without much warning the next morning. I had David hide down by the side of the bed. I'm sure she saw him.... but being the space case she is, didn't know who it was.
A couple of months later, at the end of the Divorce, she called David and left him a message telling him that she had some "dirt" on me that would proove that the Divorce wasn't his fault.... because I was cheating on him. (David and I Divorced more peacefully than we had been married. We filled out the papers together, agreed on EVERYTHING and managed to get a Divorce for under $30 and without any court appearences or Lawyers. So by the time she called him, we were Good Friends. He shared the message with me, and told me he knew all there was to know, and wasn't going to bother calling her.) Now, while this ultimately ruined my relationship with HER, I was very secure knowing that there were no surprises I needed to fear.
When people choose to support me, love me, stand by me, etc. I want it to be real. Not based on the part of the story I've edited to make me sound good. So, unlike Adam Peeples professes, I truly mean it when I say: If you know me, you know what I stand for, and if you don't then just ask.... and you will actually get the truth and a real answer. Rather than accusations and rejection.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Everyone VOTE
With the country in the state it's in, it's time everyone gets up off of their butts and makes a difference in SOME way.
Everyone in this Country needs to start acting and not just being acted upon. The LDS Church has always stressed the need to take an active role in voting for leaders who will lead this Country, our states, and towns righteously.
SO, and this includes me, anyone who is allowing everyone else to do the work, needs to get off of the fence and make a difference in what EVER way they can. And EVERYONE needs to take an active part by voting in the elections.
Everyone in this Country needs to start acting and not just being acted upon. The LDS Church has always stressed the need to take an active role in voting for leaders who will lead this Country, our states, and towns righteously.
SO, and this includes me, anyone who is allowing everyone else to do the work, needs to get off of the fence and make a difference in what EVER way they can. And EVERYONE needs to take an active part by voting in the elections.
Things to have on hand
I've always been big on "Being Prepared." And I like to talk with others who are also into this way of thinking, and getting ideas from them on how to more effectively handle it. Here's what I've learned.
Items to have on hand for a Social Crisis:
* A year's supply of food that your family will actually EAT. Including Chocolate, and other "comfort foods," as well as things that don't spoil, and require little preparation.
In our Food Storage, we have a lot of PB and J, rice, Apple Juice, Spaghettio's, Spaghetti Sauce, and chocolate. As well as wheat and beans.
* The equipment to prepare the foods you have such as a grain "mill" of some sort to make your wheat usable, a camp stove along with propane, can opener, bottle opener, those kinds of things
* Guns and ammunition.
What good is spending the time, money and effort to gather these things if you can lose them easily when someone bigger and stronger wants them. The "bad guys" will have guns, that is a guarantee.
They also afford a bartering option
* Alcohol.
Lots of uses for this one. Starting with sterilization, and ending with Bartering.
* Cigarettes.
Again, Bartering possibility.
* Soap, wipes, toilet paper, etc.
You can NOT have to much of this stuff. Again, if you have an excess, you can barter with it.
* And Camping Gear.
Shelter, tools, stoves, sleeping bags, air mattresses, tarps, you name it.
Items to have on hand for a Social Crisis:
* A year's supply of food that your family will actually EAT. Including Chocolate, and other "comfort foods," as well as things that don't spoil, and require little preparation.
In our Food Storage, we have a lot of PB and J, rice, Apple Juice, Spaghettio's, Spaghetti Sauce, and chocolate. As well as wheat and beans.
* The equipment to prepare the foods you have such as a grain "mill" of some sort to make your wheat usable, a camp stove along with propane, can opener, bottle opener, those kinds of things
* Guns and ammunition.
What good is spending the time, money and effort to gather these things if you can lose them easily when someone bigger and stronger wants them. The "bad guys" will have guns, that is a guarantee.
They also afford a bartering option
* Alcohol.
Lots of uses for this one. Starting with sterilization, and ending with Bartering.
* Cigarettes.
Again, Bartering possibility.
* Soap, wipes, toilet paper, etc.
You can NOT have to much of this stuff. Again, if you have an excess, you can barter with it.
* And Camping Gear.
Shelter, tools, stoves, sleeping bags, air mattresses, tarps, you name it.
Voting
All of you Wonderful Magna Residents (or ANYONE in District 22) PLEASE do not vote for Adam Peeples in the upcoming election! Trust me, he is NOT the person he was in High School, and I Believe he is a VERY bad choice to represent the People of Utah!
If he was running as a Democrat. Or even a Liberal, it might be totally different! However, he is not. He is running as a Conservative Republican. His views are not Conservative AT ALL!!!!!! which means that he does not have the same view on things that he is advertising or as the people he is wanting to represent. The problem with this is a simple conflict of interest. He will represent what HE believes. Period. And if it is not the same as what the people he represents believe, then THEY, not HE are just out of luck.
He advertises that if you know him, then you know what he believes. And if you don't, then ask around. Well, I THOUGHT I knew him, but what I KNOW he believes is NOT what conservative Utahns believe. And what I was unclear on, I DID ask around. And have been harrassed, and attacked for it. I even went to people who could give me the truth vs gossip.... his Fiance, and Sister. And was accused of being a "Spy" for his ex wife... who I have NEVER met. When I finally got a chance to speak to HIM, after being shunned for a few YEARS, I told him that I meant no harm.... simply wanted to know the facts from the fiction (I had heard a lot of gossip, and wanted to know the truth.) Now, I have lost several friends for an honest mistake.... or really no mistake, I was simply asking for truth, NOT PASSING ON GOSSIP.
You DO NOT want Adam representing you! He will not tell you the truth. He will not represent YOUR ideals. And he will try to shut up or shut out ANYONE who tries to learn more than he wants people to know. This is fine for an individual. NOT for someone who is supposed to be representing YOUR Honest Christian values and virtues!
If he was running as a Democrat. Or even a Liberal, it might be totally different! However, he is not. He is running as a Conservative Republican. His views are not Conservative AT ALL!!!!!! which means that he does not have the same view on things that he is advertising or as the people he is wanting to represent. The problem with this is a simple conflict of interest. He will represent what HE believes. Period. And if it is not the same as what the people he represents believe, then THEY, not HE are just out of luck.
He advertises that if you know him, then you know what he believes. And if you don't, then ask around. Well, I THOUGHT I knew him, but what I KNOW he believes is NOT what conservative Utahns believe. And what I was unclear on, I DID ask around. And have been harrassed, and attacked for it. I even went to people who could give me the truth vs gossip.... his Fiance, and Sister. And was accused of being a "Spy" for his ex wife... who I have NEVER met. When I finally got a chance to speak to HIM, after being shunned for a few YEARS, I told him that I meant no harm.... simply wanted to know the facts from the fiction (I had heard a lot of gossip, and wanted to know the truth.) Now, I have lost several friends for an honest mistake.... or really no mistake, I was simply asking for truth, NOT PASSING ON GOSSIP.
You DO NOT want Adam representing you! He will not tell you the truth. He will not represent YOUR ideals. And he will try to shut up or shut out ANYONE who tries to learn more than he wants people to know. This is fine for an individual. NOT for someone who is supposed to be representing YOUR Honest Christian values and virtues!
Recent Thoughts
This is an excerpt from an earlier post:
I believe that this past month has marked a significant point in history with the Health care Bill passed by Congress. I only know a little about the exact details of the Bill. However, what I have learned leads me to believe that this Bill is more or less Unconstitutional.
For Members of the LDS Church who know their "Church History" and the things that have been written by Our Leaders throughout the past 2 centuries, this is a key point in what we believe will transpire prior to "The End of the World." ( I am using a lot of general terms.... I am not a "doomsday/apocalypse/end of existence" type of person)
Here's what I'm getting at: I believe that this is the beginning of "The End." The end of what exactly, I do not know. But I do believe that "The End" will encompass the America that we know changing DRASTICALLY. The History of the world shows several time frames where things have happened similar to how things are happening right now. The United States of America are at a point where other countries have been at one time or another. And in all of the other instances the outcome was a complete breakdown before things were rebuilt. And when they were rebuilt it was always as a completely different country.... or multiple countries.
Anyway it happens we are basically guaranteed that this situation we are currently in is going to decline. And eventually be drastic.
There are Scholars out there who have believed for some time now that it will be a complete break down resulting in a Civil War and eventually the United States will be divided and separated into several different Countries' territories.
However you choose to view it. It looks like a good time to take into consideration the things written in the "Book Of Revelations" (New Testament of the Bible.)
One thing David and I have discussed recently is that it speaks of the "Mark of the Beast in their hands and on their foreheads."
Throughout my life, I have come to understand through the teachings I have received, that this will entail some sort of mandatory bar coding system insisted upon by the government. In Revelations, John warns against accepting this system. As David and I were discussing this the other day, he commented that he believes that many of our Faith, who know the warning will still choose to comply. Let this be my "Two Cents" that those of you who believe in the "Book of Revelations" consider the warning it contains if this scenario ever arises.
In the mean time this is a good time to take Food Storage very seriously. Also make sure for those of you who are LDS, that you ARE paying your tithing.
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Another thing I want to touch on quickly is "Keeping the Sabbath Day Holy." Many view it as specific to "Mormons." However, it is in fact one of the original 10 Commandments, dating back in Christian Beliefs AND Non Christian Beliefs to Moses.
I have been working really hard the past month or so to take this to heart, and use the "Sabbath" which for us is Sunday, as a day of rest. I do not do laundry or any cleaning (beyond basic maintenance) on Sunday, if I can help it. I try to get the grocery shopping, laundry and cleaning done by the time I go to bed Saturday night so that Sunday can be a peaceful day.
I don't know how much it has helped us as a Family. However, I do know that in light of David's recent escalation in outbursts, I believe it to be the reason that I am able to remain calmer, and handle the situation rationally and without loosing control myself.
I believe that this past month has marked a significant point in history with the Health care Bill passed by Congress. I only know a little about the exact details of the Bill. However, what I have learned leads me to believe that this Bill is more or less Unconstitutional.
For Members of the LDS Church who know their "Church History" and the things that have been written by Our Leaders throughout the past 2 centuries, this is a key point in what we believe will transpire prior to "The End of the World." ( I am using a lot of general terms.... I am not a "doomsday/apocalypse/end of existence" type of person)
Here's what I'm getting at: I believe that this is the beginning of "The End." The end of what exactly, I do not know. But I do believe that "The End" will encompass the America that we know changing DRASTICALLY. The History of the world shows several time frames where things have happened similar to how things are happening right now. The United States of America are at a point where other countries have been at one time or another. And in all of the other instances the outcome was a complete breakdown before things were rebuilt. And when they were rebuilt it was always as a completely different country.... or multiple countries.
Anyway it happens we are basically guaranteed that this situation we are currently in is going to decline. And eventually be drastic.
There are Scholars out there who have believed for some time now that it will be a complete break down resulting in a Civil War and eventually the United States will be divided and separated into several different Countries' territories.
However you choose to view it. It looks like a good time to take into consideration the things written in the "Book Of Revelations" (New Testament of the Bible.)
One thing David and I have discussed recently is that it speaks of the "Mark of the Beast in their hands and on their foreheads."
Throughout my life, I have come to understand through the teachings I have received, that this will entail some sort of mandatory bar coding system insisted upon by the government. In Revelations, John warns against accepting this system. As David and I were discussing this the other day, he commented that he believes that many of our Faith, who know the warning will still choose to comply. Let this be my "Two Cents" that those of you who believe in the "Book of Revelations" consider the warning it contains if this scenario ever arises.
In the mean time this is a good time to take Food Storage very seriously. Also make sure for those of you who are LDS, that you ARE paying your tithing.
******************************************************
Another thing I want to touch on quickly is "Keeping the Sabbath Day Holy." Many view it as specific to "Mormons." However, it is in fact one of the original 10 Commandments, dating back in Christian Beliefs AND Non Christian Beliefs to Moses.
I have been working really hard the past month or so to take this to heart, and use the "Sabbath" which for us is Sunday, as a day of rest. I do not do laundry or any cleaning (beyond basic maintenance) on Sunday, if I can help it. I try to get the grocery shopping, laundry and cleaning done by the time I go to bed Saturday night so that Sunday can be a peaceful day.
I don't know how much it has helped us as a Family. However, I do know that in light of David's recent escalation in outbursts, I believe it to be the reason that I am able to remain calmer, and handle the situation rationally and without loosing control myself.
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